"The Sociopath Next Door" We all know one.

What a great spirited conversation we had about this thoughtful book, which generally got good reviews from the group. The absolutely most interesting part of the discussion was of the people that we had all run across in our lives, or perhaps still have in our lives whom we now understand only too well.

The stories of when and where we had come across these people in our lives only proved the point that most people have had to deal with the lack of conscience or remorse in another close at hand, with obvious emotional consequences. As it was pointed out, one in 25 people in the US falls into this category and so we have met these people in the workplace, our associations and potentially in our families.

Our own stories were varied, from a (very) bad boyfriend to a manipulative college roommate. Julie had a textbook example of an employee with charm, looks, (just) enough smarts and the key tip-off - a perpetual but ever-changing play for pity. While that recipe worked really well for an individual sales person, it was a disaster for a larger role.

The book is written of course to make a point and so it fairly black and white in its depiction of a sociopath - one either is or isn't. We felt that there had to be more of a spectrum and wondered whether someone could moderate his or her behavior enough to be functional in a perfectly acceptable way. Lynn and Susan thought they knew someone who had done just that - while remorseless himself, he had built a life that was consistent, successful and even generous; just not emotionally engaged. The book does not weigh in on that possibility but it seems like a logical option.

By the way, did anyone else notice that the cover included three sets of eyes, only one that could be male but the statistics show this is a condition that is definitely more prevalent in men than women. We just can't catch a break.

Thanks to Maggie for hosting at her lovely house, including a tour of the tree house for those so inclined. The food as usual was spectacular! Lynn brought a pea and mint dip that was amazing! If anyone wants the magic cake recipe, let me know, it is yours for the asking. Speaking of magic, Ashley, those cookies! Amazing. Rick absolutely loved them, so can I have the recipe?

Our next book is Hold Still, by Sally Mann, a memoir of her life and controversial photography. This should be a great read as she is fascinating. We may want to combine this discussion with a trip to see her work at the VMFA. Jean has offered to host our next meeting on June 15.

See you all there, feel free to weigh in!